Planning a Funeral for Elderly Parents: Why Now Is the Time to Talk
- Adam Peregrine
- Nov 10
- 3 min read
Facing the reality of planning a funeral for elderly parents is never easy. It brings up emotions we often try to avoid, and conversations we tend to delay. But starting this discussion early is one of the most compassionate and practical things you can do, for yourself and your loved ones.
At S. Hoskins & Son Funeral Directors, we’ve supported countless families who were grateful they had these plans in place. By talking openly now, you avoid rushed decisions later and ensure your parents’ personal wishes are honoured.
In this guide, we’ll show you how to approach the conversation, what decisions can be made ahead of time, and how our Funeral Wishes service gives you a calm, respectful way to prepare for the future.
Why Talking About Funeral Planning Matters
What Happens When Families Don’t Plan Ahead?
When someone passes without a plan, families are often left guessing what to do. This can lead to:
Disagreements between siblings or family members
Financial pressure during a time of grief
Choosing options that may not align with the loved one’s values
It’s not uncommon for families to say, “I wish we’d had this conversation sooner.” Planning in advance lifts a huge weight during an already difficult time.
The Benefits of Early Funeral Planning
By discussing future funeral arrangements now, families can:
Ensure clarity about the type of service preferred
Reduce stress and emotional decision-making later
Set financial expectations and avoid unexpected costs
This isn’t about being morbid; it’s about peace of mind and being prepared, just like writing a will or setting up a Power of Attorney.
How to Start the Conversation with Elderly Parents
Look for the Right Moments
These conversations don’t need to start formally. Sometimes, gentle moments are best. Consider bringing it up:
After attending another funeral
During a family gathering
When reviewing other life plans like a will or finances
Try saying: “Would it be okay if we talked about how you’d like things to be, when the time comes? It would mean a lot to know we’re doing exactly what you’d want.”
Reassuring Your Parents
Elderly parents may feel unsure about discussing their own funeral. Let them know:
It’s not about expecting the worst
It gives them control over their legacy
There’s no financial commitment involved
This is simply about documenting their preferences and giving the family peace of mind.
What Is a Funeral Wishes Plan?
Our Funeral Wishes service is designed for families in Ludlow who want to plan with intention, not pressure.
Here’s how it works:
You meet with Stephen, our funeral director and celebrant
Together, you document all preferences and key decisions
You receive a copy, and we safely store another at our office
There is no prepayment, just a clear picture of today’s estimated costs
This plan becomes an invaluable guide when the time comes, helping family members avoid second-guessing.
What Can Be Decided in Advance?
Even small details can make a big difference when planned ahead. You and your parents can discuss:
Service type: Traditional, direct cremation, or something alternative
Celebrant or religious leader: Stephen can officiate if preferred
Coffin and transport choices
Favourite hymns, poems, or readings
Venue: Church, crematorium, or our private on-site chapel
Burial or cremation preferences
Planning these aspects can lead to surprisingly meaningful conversations. It allows parents to reflect on how they wish to be remembered — and gives you a clearer picture of what matters to them.
Local Funeral Planning in Ludlow - Support Close to Home
We proudly support families across Ludlow and nearby towns, including:
Tenbury Wells
Cleobury Mortimer
Craven Arms
Leintwardine
Brimfield
With only 50–60 funerals per year, we provide truly personal care. That means no unfamiliar staff, no rushed arrangements - just calm, compassionate support.
Take the First Step - We’re Here When You’re Ready
If you’ve been thinking about talking to your parents about funeral planning, take it as a sign to start today. You don’t have to do it alone. Stephen is here to support you every step of the way, with patience, care, and professionalism.
Ready to talk or plan ahead?
Call 01584 872048 - available 24/7
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